Wednesday today. It is the middle of the week. Everyone feels a little bit sluggish and tired. It’s the perfect time to talk about confidence!
Firstly, let’s make clear, the fact that confidence is not something that lasts forever. It depends on a lot of factors, so don’t expect to be confident all the time.
Unfortunately confidence is something that’s easy to fake. For example, everyday we see and meet people who seem to be really confident and ok with themselves. That’s not always the reality. They could also have a lack of confidence, but do not really show it.
So we find ourselves in a position, of thinking that everyone around us is perfectly ok with her/his life, when in fact they are not!
Being confident is something completely personal. It is not what attitude you show. It is what you feel when you are sitting alone in your bedroom, or when you are alone in the bus on your way home.
Obviously I am not an expert on psychology, but I am going to try to list a few things-tips that helped me boost my confidence and finally be ok with myself (at least most of the time 😛 ) .
I can not express how important music is. Basically the quote: “you are what you hear” is 100% true. You have to find the music that fits your personality and psychology. Just stop listening to everything mainstream. Don’t get me wrong! There is nothing bad in mainstream music. I am just saying… Dedicate more time on finding through which kind of music, you can express yourself better.
- The people who surround you
How do you expect to be confident if your own friends do not help you to? Think, think, think … Are your friends really YOUR FRIENDS? Do they support your dreams and goals? Do they encourage you to improve yourself? How do you feel when you are around them? If you feel like “not yourself”, if you can’t express what you really feel, if they prevent you from doing what you truly want, then it is time to move on. Sure, it is going to be hard as f*** in the beginning, but it’ll be worth it long-term.
- Your purpose
I believe this is one of the hardest things to find, because sometimes you don’t control it. Some people are born with a purpose: “I am going to be a doctor, a teacher, an architect etc”. Some people aren’t. It is a long way until you find what you truly want and until you do, your confidence won’t be at its best. The only useful advice I can give you is SEARCH. Do not stop looking for what you love. It is the only effective solution to lack of confidence. Once you find it, your mind will automatically think about it and you will find that you past concerns were not so important.
Even if you find your purpose, you are not completely there! You have to have the discipline to really work on what it is that you want. If you do not work, there will be no improvement. No improvement, means no satisfaction and no satisfaction, means no confidence.
I am just going to say one word ENDORPHINS. I do not know what they exactly are, but they do wonders. So, when you break a sweat these miraculous endorphins are produced. They basically make you happy. I do not know how, but as long as they do the job I am good. So, EXERCISE = ENDORPHINS = HAPPINESS = CONFIDENCE
- Healthy Diet
Confidence comes from a healthy brain. A healthy brain is functioning well because it is fueled with nutrients from the food you put inside your body. If you eat good, you will feel good. Confidence is about feeling good and food is the easiest way to achieve that. I am not going to brag about another “healthy diet”, I am just saying that eating healthy is not just about the “looks”, it is also about the “feels”, if you feel me.
I just had to include this one on the list. I think that the reason is obvious! Travelling is the best way to broaden your mind. Travelling makes you see the world from another perpsective. It makes you realize that there are more serious issues out there and that your worries are sometimes so insignificant. When travelling, you meet new people. You hear their stories. Sometimes you connect with them, because you see that they have been in the same situations as you are and their fine and most importantly they are still confident.
Be confident and do what you love,