Spending time alone seems so simple. Almost insignificant. Some people can’t even fit 30 minutes for theirselves, into their “busy reality”.
It’s not that we are “too busy”, it’s that we are scared as hell to spend time with ourselves, because all our insecurities and demons, will make their way up to the surface. In other words, we avoid to face ourselves. Why? Because it’s hard and complicated.
(For those who live alone), tell me, could you forget the first day you stayed at your own home, all alone?
But what’s the difference between those who spend time alone and those who try, to be around others all the time?
Someone may ask: And what’s the point in all of these?
Why should I force mysef to stay alone, since I can discuss anything I want with friends, parents etc. ?
Why should I do endless discussions with myself, when 70% of them may lead nowhere?
BECAUSE THAT REMAINING 30%, IS SO IMPORTANT THAT COULD CHANGE YOUR LIFE.
WHY SHOULD I SPEND TIME WITH MYSELF?
I know tha this is going to be a mainstream answer, but it’s the truth: Because you are unique. This means that you are the only one who knows who you are, which are the best solutions for your problems and which are the right decisions for your life.
It’s ok to discuss your issues with others, but you have to keep in mind that : a) their answers are based in their personal experiences and b) they give you solutions based on their wants and their perception.
So the answer is:
YOU NEED TO SPEND TIME ALONE, BECAUSE SELF-TALK MAKES YOU REALIZE, WHAT IS IT, THAT YOU REALLY DESIRE AND WHO ARE THE PEOPLE YOU WANT TO KEEP IN YOUR LIFE. THE PEOPLE WHO EMPOWER THAT DESIRE.
Make your demons, your best friends | By saying demons, I mean emotions. The emotions you’ve barrried so deep and you try to keep there, for as long as possibe. How exactly you do that? It’s obvious. You avoid staying alone. We are so afraid of emotions, because they take us to the darkest places. But going to these places, means that you aRe going to come back changed. On your way back, you may see a new you, a “you” you’ve never knew existed.
So what do you need to do?
Turn of your cellphone and PC and begin.
Use you mind FOR YOU | Trying to come to a conlusion, using theoritical thoughts, is one of the hardest things to do, especially when these thoughts revolve around your own self. It may be hard, but at the same time is one of the most effective ways to find out what’s happening inside your head. So, in order to come to these conclusions, you need to discuss with yourself. Here’s how:
Find what you love and finally DO IT | Such a common advice, but yet no one does it. Two tips which maybe help you find and do what you love, are these three:
- Notice the things you are naturally drown to during your day. The activities you can’t wait to do.
- Ok. Now take your pen and paper and write them down.
- Open you computer,
- Open your google browser and search: α)how you can actually include more of those things in your every day life (maybe as your job), b)check if other people already do something similar και c)check if you can earn money from doing these things.
Spending time alone doesn’t mean thinking about your problems or you future. It means doing what you love, and getting lost in it. It means not allowing anything or anyone to distract you. This way you will end up having thoughts you’ve never imagined. Not only you will change as an individual, but also you’ll become better at what you love.
Be confident and do what you love ❤