Someone tells you that you’ve put on weight. Someone tells you that you have to gain weight. You listen. You begin to push yourself to reach that goal…almost blindly. Stop for a second a think:
“OK. I WANT TO LOSE WEIGHT, BUT CAN I LOSE IT?”
That’s how we should thing before feeling ashamed for our own bodies!
Does that “someone” who told you to change your body, know what your health conditions are, or the emotional imbalances that you’ve been through?
HOW DO WE “BODY SHAME?
By comparing ourselves to others | It’s so easy and so uncontiously done, nowadays. In my opinion, the two main reason why that happens, are social media and the competitiveness between people in regards to appearance.
Confusing our perception of “flaws” with reality | We have a certain image in our minds of what exactly “flaws” are. The moment that you think : “If I eliminate those flaws, my reality would be better”, is the moment where body shaming starts.
Perceiving “Healthy” and “Thin” as equals | That’s the most common misperception, that the majority of people and especially younger ones, make. Being fit and healthy has nothing to do with your weight. A lot “flabby” people are really strong and have a sculpted body. On the other side, being thin does not mean that you can’t be strong.
HOW DO WE OVERCOME IT?
Find your “flaws” and make peace with them
Get rid of people who promote body-negativity in your life
Try to fix your flaws, but realize that some of your characteristics can not be changed. They make you who you are. And that’s the TRUE BEAUTY!
Find something else in your life. Something that consumes your mind and doesn’t let you stress about body issues.
THINGS THAT YOU CAN DO RIGHT NOW (IN YOUR EVERYDAY LIFE) TO REDUCE BODY SHAMING
- Follow the right Instagram accounts. There are many celbrities ( Tyra Banks, Kelly Clarkson, Demi Lovato, Emma Stone, Jennifer Lawrence and so many others), who promote the right standards and keep your mind in a healthy place.
- Go out of your comfort zone and wear things, which show off the parts of your body, which you consider to be flawed.
- Speak to someone about your “body shaming thoughts”. Someone who already has gone throuth that process.
So, at the end of the day, the only thing you can do, is finally love your lovehandles and focus on being healthy mentally. Nothing less, nothing more. You can’t take care of your body by hating it.
Be confident and do what you love